The Guidebook | #7 The Ceremony
By now we’ve basically talked about most of what that happens before the actual wedding, so it’s time to shine a light on the ceremony in and of itself. So let’s dive right in, ok?
Make it a two-day affair:
Funnily enough you usually get married twice on your wedding day. First at the registry office and then afterwards at a church or any other venue of your choosing. If you are worried about the wedding day getting too hectic or your guest getting a little bored between the different ceremonies, think about the idea of doing the registry’s office a day earlier. Often times you’ll only bring your closest family and friends for this part anyway and it’s usually only a very quick affair. For example: You could get married at the registry’s office with the people closest to you on Friday and do the church wedding with all your guests on Saturday. This has a lot of benefits. First and foremost, you can start the festivities on Saturday later in the day, at about 3pm or 4pm. Therefore you get to sleep in a little and start your wedding day well rested, instead of frazzled and in a hurry. Should you get married in the middle of summer, people will probably thank you for not having to stand around in the midday heat too. Also in general, if the timeline is a bit more relaxed the whole day runs more smoothly, with less ‘standing around and waiting’-time for all the participants.
The grand entrance and exit
It may seem strange to even be talking about this, but if you’d like to get beautiful photos of your grand entrance into the church (and also the exit for that matter) there is a little detail to consider for the bride: Take your time! Once the priest and all your bridesmaids are down the aisle wait another few seconds before you start walking. This is to ensure that there is enough space for your photographer to get the pictures you’re hoping for. Also, aside from that, you only get to walk this special walk once. So savor it! 🙂
When it comes to the ceremony itself there is not too much to consider, aside from enjoying it! The mood at a ceremony whether it’s held in a church or outside depends heavily on your priest or speaker. From a singing priest to a somber looking wedding speaker who should shift his focus to eulogies, I have seen it all. But generally, even with emotions running high at this point, don’t forget to take a deep breath every once in a while, smile, and enjoy the moment.Two quick pointers though: First: Don’t look directly into the camera during the ceremony. As photographers we will be moving around a bit during the ceremony, but we will always try to stay as unobtrusive as possible. However, if you catch me standing behind the priest to get a beautiful shot of you and your groom, for example, don’t look into my camera, feel free to ignore me and focus on the ceremony itself. Secondly: Every now and then it happens that your priest or speaker will forget to tell you that you are allowed to kiss after you have exchanged your wedding bands, which can lead to a bit of confusion. So in a nutshell… it’s your wedding! If you would like to kiss at any given point in time simply go for it. You don’t need to wait for an invitation to do so. 🙂